A player will pursue you. Then they'll throw themselves at you so you think they are really keen ..... you'll be surprised at how quickly they'll move. Then when you're getting keen, they'll stand you up or make an excuse to break a date (just before it) to implant some self doubt and frustration ..... this makes you start to miss them and gives them the power. Then they'll start to make future plans so you think they're working on a long term relationship with you. Again, the speed will surprise you but it's to draw you in. During this time, you'll never be invited to their house or meet any of their friends. Then, once they've had their fun and they're starting to worry that if they go much further there'll be implications, they'll very suddenly call it all off and won't want to discuss it. If you contact them they'll just ignore you in the hope that eventually you'll just give up and go away. They will then move on to their next victim.

Some would say that the "player" is someone who primarily views the opposite sex as something to be "conquered", either sexually, emotionally or both. To the player the other persons feelings arent important. Whats important is the "game", the challenge of making them do what the player wants. I call a man a "player" when it is clear that his only interest in women is the sexual one. To me, he may or may not be getting a kick out of adding to the notches on his belt but if he sees women purely as suppliers of sexual and ego gratification - nothing more - then I call him a player. He does not really care about the womans life, her likes, dislikes or ambitions. He will simply use whatever information she gives him with regard to herself as a means of "softening her up". That is, he will reflect all she has told him about herself back to her in such a way that she believes he really does care for her. Once he has what he wants (that is, her sexual and possibly her emotional surrender - it depends on how much of her he wants submitted to himself) -- he will lose interest very suddenly. However, he will be knocking on her door again the next time he "gets the urge", just hoping that she isnt after anything more than what hes offering -- or else, if she does want a deeper relationship, he hopes that she is too gullible to realise that sex without true care is all hes offering. The "player" is a selfish opportunist. He is basically after "free sex" -- that is, he wants sex without having to make either an emotional or monetary investment on his part. This is my definition of a "player" and the reason why I will never ever get involved with another man online.