Humans are the most social of all the living species. While many creatures live in groups, humans in particular love meeting strangers and expanding their circle of friends and acquaintances. Once this was dependent on physically meeting people, or writing letters, but in modern day, it has moved towards a more virtual mode.
Telephonic conversations, emails and texts have now given way to a more personal form of connecting – online chats, especially video chats. While text chats can trigger initial conversations with a stranger, to really befriend or flirt with others, video chats are the best possible option.
In a world where we humans, regardless of where we live or what we do, are rushing against time to meet the requirements of life, getting some time for ourselves to unwind while talking to a friend or casually flirting with a complete stranger seems like a blessing. Friends who are familiar with us have been and will always be there for us to talk about things that are common to both but sometimes, we just want to have a seemingly meaningless coquettish and flirty conversation with a perfect stranger, just to feel good. And who knows, that stranger might just be the friend we have been waiting for! As inspirational writer Israelmore Ayivor says, “Every friend was once a stranger and if you know this, you have to understand that conversations are the beginning of connection”.
Our world today has shrunk to fit into our pockets, reducing the distances that used to be one of the major deterrents for communication. No matter how far we are physically, we are just a call or a message away from each other. Chat services and social media platforms have brought us far closer than we ever have been. Neither our friends nor exciting strangers are too far away. While chatting with your friends who are acquainted with your daily life, occasional flirting with random strangers can bring in a certain freshness in our mundane lives, thus enriching us and making us feel great about ourselves.
While it is easier to chat with friends and acquaintances, we have to be more careful and keep a few things in mind while chatting or flirting with random strangers. It is never easy to chat with someone in a non-traditional fashion, especially when it is with a perfect stranger. In fact, flirting is an art, which if perfected can be a most pleasurable and exciting experience.
It allows us to express our hidden attractions towards someone, breaking the barriers of traditional interactions. Flirting is, in fact, a universal language, whether it is carried out in jest or seriously. It can also be the first step towards a lifelong relationship of love and trust, if the communication and process of knowing each other happens smoothly.
Tips to chat anonymously with strangers
If you want to enjoy a good flirtatious chat with a stranger anonymously, you might want to keep the following points in mind.
- Choose a safe and secure service provider
While technology has made it easier for us to reach out to more people, regardless of geography, it has also exposed us to a risk of being a victim of cyber fraud and cybercrime. When we reach out to a random stranger in a chat room, we know nothing about him or her, except for a name, which could be fake or deliberately made anonymous. A picture is also not valid proof since anybody can use a random picture available on the internet as their profile photo. Therefore, before embarking on exciting adventures like flirt chatting, make sure you choose more popular, recommended and preferably paid services. These providers generally have their own encryption services and user validation processes, ensuring more stringent cybersecurity measures than cheaper providers that can be used by anyone.
Remember, our safety is in our own hands. Even if we have to pay a small price for it at the moment, this is certainly a safeguard for the future. Recommended and popular platforms use the most updated methods to ensure security, especially for video chats. It is a common saying that eyes never lie, so while it is easier to con someone over the phone or text chats, it will take a very professional and talented conman to fake an identity and exploit users, especially if your chat provider has multi-layered security measures installed. Indulge in banter or flirtation, but remember to be safe.
- Ensure proper network connectivity and charge your phone beforehand
Imagine this; we come across a particularly interesting profile with the most dashing profile picture that appeals to us instantly and we just managed to private message the person and see “XYZ is typing…” when suddenly either the device hangs, the battery runs out, or the internet fails us! And by the time we reboot and come back to the chat room, that much-coveted contact is showing “Busy” chatting with someone else! When we are in the mood for some casual flirting with a stranger, this can be crushing. To ensure this does not happen to us in reality, we need to make sure to have a more stable and powerful network connection than normal phone-fed broadband. A 4G wifi connection is most suitable to have an uninterrupted chat, particularly if we choose to video chat. It is also necessary to check if we are on a limited plan or have limits set for usage so that the interesting conversation does not die a premature death.
Additionally, we also need to ensure the device is updated and can support the services at that point in time. A hand-held device or desktop with limited memory or inadequate and dated audio and camera specs can be a major deterrent to our plans. It is only when all of this works perfectly like a well-oiled cog in a wheel that we can sit back and enjoy a flirty and exciting conversation.
- Understand the basics of flirting
Chatting can be an easy thing to do, no matter who we are talking to. Flirting, however, is a different ball game, often referred to as an art. It is much more than dropping cheesy lines, getting extra attention and compliments that can even end up with sexual innuendos. It means the ability to have an intelligent and witty communication bordering on banter and meaningful compliments. We don’t really need to use corny one-liners or appealing pictures to attract people. A meaningful easy conversation or a smart and unusual status message can also attract people to our profiles and in such circumstances, any extra bit might just act as a put-off. While that certain smartness and intelligence in the conversation can be more prominent in face-to-face situations, flirting online is more about using the right words, quotes, puns, jokes, and so on.
Before we start chatting, we need to be very clear about how we plan to go about it. Careful planning can modify a drab and standard starting line into a more intuitive and provoking line. Give the recipient of the message an appropriate impression about us and get the correct response to start a healthy, flirty chat that can leave both you and your chat partner satisfied and anticipating what to expect the next time you chat.
Video chats are more interesting because they give a face to a voice, making it more personal and easier to connect. But if you really want to impress, you need to be prepared accordingly.
- Start with the right words or approach
Most of us are, by default, talkative. Be it over the phone or chat, we just love the fact that someone is listening to us. In our lonely times, when even in a crowd we remain like solitary islands standing in the same waters, chat services can make us feel comfortable talking freely. When we start chatting with somebody, it is not so much about how much we say as it is about what we say.
Our first few words can decide how long our chosen chat partner will continue to chat with us. While there are people who prefer serious conversations, if we intend to have a flirty conversation, we need to have a cheerful disposition and be open to banter. In our responses as well as our advances, we need to be able to use the right words and the right way of approaching random strangers.
Our words and how much we say is a great determinant of how our conversations are going to go. It is therefore necessary to be able to think clearly before either saying anything or responding to anything. Too much and too fast might not always be the right thing. Remember, if someone has started a conversation with us, he or she is expecting a smart response so that the conversation can be meaningfully carried forward. Therefore, it is essential to take our time and choose our words carefully so that we don’t end up making fools of ourselves, especially when we are having a flirtatious conversation with someone interesting.
- Give it time…
The very essence of an interesting conversation is time. This applies to both a physical chat as well as an online conversation. We chat with people because we are attracted to things about them. These could include their work, their philosophy, their hobbies, or just about anything about them. The same applies to us when somebody approaches us. Either way, the main ingredient to have more and longer conversations is the mystery factor.
While responding, we need to take time to divulge information and while approaching, we need to put brakes so our speed does not overwhelm or irritate the other person. A little harmless half-truth, an indicative yet secretive nugget of information, or a covered and loaded statement can trigger interest from both sides making a flirtatious conversation more interesting and evocative. A mysterious personality generally attracts more people and can keep them hooked unless all the beans are spilled too soon before being reasonably probed.
Also, it is important to remember that although a stranger has begun talking, they might still need some time to become comfortable and open up. And unless that happens, a proper conversation is hardly likely. So, whether we are revealing ourselves or trying to read somebody else, it is necessary to give it some time.
- Be nice and attractive in words and looks
It is essential to be appealing to survive in the virtual world, not just in terms of looks but also in the way we talk or write. Unless our personalities appear dashing enough, we might not be entertained in the world of chats, especially if we intend to flirt online with random strangers. We don’t just flirt with people because we are bored, but because more often than not, an intellectually stimulating conversation can refresh us. But to be able to do that it is necessary to be conscious about our looks and our personality.
While looks make a great impact on video chats, for anonymous chats with strangers, what really matters is how we speak, what we say, and our overall personality. People interested in online anonymous chats are generally out there looking to talk to a nice and attractive person rather than a rough, abrupt, or boring person. The true beauty of our personalities is revealed once conversations go deeper. But to get to that level, the initial few minutes or instances need to leave a lasting impact, so much so that someone feel like coming back time and again. Just because you want to flirt with someone does not mean you need to be cheesy, cheap or available, because while these qualities might have an instant appeal, they won’t take a relationship far.
Meaningful chats help us know ourselves better, particularly if we manage to have an interesting one with someone who seems equally interested in us. But that might not always happen as we wish. It is important to be ready to accept rejection from the person you might have wanted to chat with. Remember, that is not really the end of the world and someone more interesting might just be around the corner waiting in some other chat room to make us feel special through interesting flirty conversations.